Divorce Mediation Offices of Attorney Ellen Plasil

Divorce Mediation via Video Conferencing

Self-isolating does not need to change everything!       

During the Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, you can mediate the terms of your divorce under the guidance of an experienced licensed attorney who will serve as your mediator.  When your verbal agreement is reached, it - along with all of your court papers - will be prepared for court.   

 So stay home, stay safe, and mediate your divorce via videoconferencing. 

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The Divorce Mediation Offices of Attorney Ellen Plasil is a full service divorce mediation law firm. By choice, my firm’s exclusive area of practice is divorce law, applied strictly in a neutral mediation environment. Whether your situation is simple and straightforward, or extremely complex and intricate, I can help you resolve your case using mediation, a method of dispute resolution that costs a fraction of the time, money and stress that would otherwise be spent in litigation. One reason for the differences between mediation and litigation is that you and your spouse are speaking directly with one another under the guidance of an attorney-mediator; rather than speaking through your respective litigation lawyers via letters, phone calls, court hearings, and more.  Direct guided dialogue takes less time, and therefore costs less money, to achieve the end goal: fair terms that govern your divorce.  

With more than 32 years of divorce law experience, first as a divorce lawyer in the courtroom and then as an attorney-mediator, I am able to offer couples the benefit of a solid legal foundation on which to mediate their divorce. As a licensed attorney, I am also able to prepare all the legal documents that will be needed during the divorce process — from the court papers that begin the divorce to the final Separation Agreement - the document that incorporates all of the terms you have worked on in mediation that will soon become the court orders on your divorce.

I treat each couple as unique. No two families are exactly alike or need exactly the same kind of guidance. The goal, however, is always the same: to provide a fair and legal outcome for each couple, and to provide it in the most cost-effective manner possible. This approach has helped me to earn a reputation with the courts for producing high quality, personalized and professional Separation Agreements.  It has also led to a reputation with my clients for conducting sensitive and creative mediation sessions that aim for a result that everyone in the room knows is the best outcome for this particular couple’s situation and provides the content for a fair and legal Agreement that I will write at the end of the process.    

Throughout a couple’s mediation process, I never lose sight of the emotional context that necessarily comes with divorce.  Whether it is a short marriage that was tumultuous from the start, but resulted in some financial wrinkles that need to be ironed out; or a longer marriage that brought children into the world; or a gay or Lesbian marriage - with or without children - that has found itself facing the same “irretrievable breakdown” as so many other marriages have found before it, because marital problems do not discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation; or a lifelong marriage where one partner is looking for a different end-of-life path after half a century of marriage to one partner; everyone - each and every one - is entering the divorce process in some state of emotional uncertainty, pain or upheaval. Or all three.  I never forget that fact.  It is always with that fact in mind, and within that context, that I try to educate and guide my clients to the best Agreement possible for them; one that is right for their particular situation; one that is fair to both sides; one that is legal; one that will continue to serve them for many years long after the divorce is over; and one which will satisfy the Court.  

Each mediator has his or her own style during the mediation session, and his or her own approach to the job that needs to be done.  That style and approach will impact the tone and atmosphere of the mediation process.  The purpose of this website is to introduce myself to you, to explain my approach to the job of attorney-mediator, and to provide an initial sense of how my style will impact your sessions.  If I have made even a small dent in that endeavor, then I have accomplished my first job.

Your first job, as you prepare to embark on an unknown path, is to find an attorney-mediator that is a good fit for both of you.  If you have read this far, you are taking your first job seriously.  But I can only provide you with so much information on a written website page, and a page, at that, that can be written only from my side of the mediation table, the mediator’s side.  So I invite you to review the entire website - including the parts that give you the perspectives of some of my former clients who can tell you more about who I am from their side of the table, the client’s side.  One such perspective is re-printed below (with the client’s permission) and mirrors very well what I always try to achieve in my mediation sessions.  That is why I am including it as part of this introductory page.  Do not read it for its compliments; but rather, read it for its  articulation of how I do the job I am hired to do.  What this client took away from mediation is exactly what I always try to bring to it.

On a more technical note, when you hire me to mediate your divorce, no retainer fee will be requested. As a result, no divorce needs to be postponed until a large sum of money is secured. You simply pay as you go.  Additionally, I handle (by choice) only a small number of cases at any given time. As a result, you may encounter a short waiting period while an active case is settled before your first session can be scheduled.  

If you are considering mediation as the vehicle for your divorce, or just want to ask some preliminary procedural questions, I hope you will give me a call. We cannot discuss your particular circumstances over the phone, as those conversations must always be with you and your spouse on the conference together to hear everything that is said; but you may inquire about how a first session is conducted and any other procedural issue you may wish to discuss.  You will always speak directly with me, and there is never a charge for the initial phone inquiry.  

Thanks for visiting. 

Ellen Plasil

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The following was posted on YELP and YP.com and is re-printed here with the client’s permission.

While I don't wish divorce on anyone, if both parties choose that route and decide on mediation, I highly recommend that you consider hiring Ellen Plasil.  Her commitment to the case, concern for all parties and requisite skills are top notch and you couldn't possibly be in better hands.

My ex-husband and I retained the mediation services of Ellen Plasil in August of 2014. Prior  to choosing her as our mediator in the summer of 2014, I researched several other mediators in the area, and during our initial telephone conversation, I found Attorney Plasil’s demeanor to be knowledgeable, professional, respectful and incredibly warm.  The services she offered were all inclusive and her rates were on par with all of the other mediators that I researched.  Further, I received several referrals for her services.  In short, choosing Ellen Plasil as our mediator, was a no brainer. 

Attorney Plasil approached every meeting we had with her, with sensitivity and sincerity, and brought incredible awareness and insight to the unique legal issues we brought to the table.  She immediately put us both at ease with her kind, warm, and funny personality.  We even had several moments of levity during tense times (which I know is hard to believe, but it’s true).  Her knowledge of divorce law and her impeccable work ethic stood out at every session.  Most important was her need to be fair to both parties.  She never took sides and was extremely fair when it came to working on finances and splitting assets and I know for a fact that my ex would echo my sentiments.

Ms. Plasil took all of our distinctive issues into account when drafting our settlement agreement and even went so far as to include our dog into the agreement, which was a relief to both of us.  She didn’t miss a single detail.

I simply cannot recommend Ellen Plasil highly enough!  She is caring, kind, thoughtful, thorough, extremely knowledgeable and goes out of her way to be fair and sensitive to all parties involved.   The fact is, she is an absolute pleasure to be around, can make a person laugh during trying times and is just one of the most amazing people I have ever met.  We lucked out when we chose her as a mediator.  She is simply the best.   I can actually say that I miss having sessions with her (and that says a lot!).  

Susanne S.
Monroe, CT
January 2016

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